Related Posts

Is There A Cure For Parental Incapacitation? Parenting Teenagers

Is There A Cure For Parental Incapacitation? Parenting Teenagers
“Let Go Of The Need To Control”

 

Sitting on the couch I held my breath. Was it my imagination or was I breathing less now that I was the parent of teenagers?  The grandfather clock, that use to sit in my parents home, struck three.  Three A.M. What was he doing out this late? He knew better.

More importantly, I wondered gazing at the  street light dancing atop the white caps, when did I contract this disease; this parental incapacitation? Of course, it began as I began parenting teenagers.

I remember when my prevalent thought was how cute and  incredible this child of mine was.  I remember telling him that I was  undeserving of the privilege of being his parent. And I distinctly remember a time when I  believed my son was a gift, created wonderfully by a force, source outside of myself.  Now,  all I focused on were the broken rules, his dirty underwear and the toilet seat that was always  up and always dirty.

When did I begin  to view this miracle as something  to control,  an  extension of my resume,  a reflection of  my wisdom and parental giftedness? When did I cross the line from an inspired parent of a teenager,  loving mom to  slave master, controller, dictator and gestapo?  What poisoned my belief  and caused me to act as if I was the  Creator?

Of course I knew what I must do, don’t we all?

I had to believe – again. I had to replace my desire to control with genuine surrender. I had to go from Dictator to Steward. I had to grow up, let go and allow this little miracle to work out his one, incredible life; in his own way, in his own time.

I had to start breathing again…

Photo by Jeff Georgevich

 

Inspirational Companies

An incredible free family calendar and app- for people on the go!
cozi.com

Posted by on August 16, 2011 in Dysfunction Junction

Every day I get up expecting a miracle or ten thousand. Mostly I expect God to take the questions of life and turn them into soulful inspiration to encourage you and I on this journey. That's why I'm here. I believe in the miracles that faith, love and hope make possible.

  1. August 16, 2011 at 10:40 am

    Every day is part of the process of letting go, some days are so easy, and other days you awake in the middle of the night sure that they need you. I am looking forward to entering the next stage of ‘mature adult’ with my kids. I guess that mean’s I should act like a mature adult at all times too, eh? Lol.. makes me laugh most days.

  2. August 16, 2011 at 12:54 pm

    Or they wake in the middle of the day, after assuring you they have it ALL handled, and announce, scream, beg you to show up in the next hour with their whatchamathingy or all will be ruined.
    Smile.
    I’m showing up- heart open for the rest of this journey with these two…

  3. Roger
    August 16, 2011 at 8:00 pm

    ‎”We may ignore, but we can nowhere evade, the presence of God. The world is crowded with Him. He walks everywhere incognito.”

    ~C.S. Lewis~

    As our children flee our protection, their choices are no surprise to God. And they cannot flee the presence of God.

  4. August 17, 2011 at 3:17 pm

    Thanks Roger- love C.S. Lewis a
    And to think he began as a big doubter – himself.
    “The world is crowded with Him.” That is my favorite quote of today….

  5. September 20, 2011 at 10:48 am

    Aw, that had been a very very good article. Over the considered I want to take note of like that whenever they this border 2 ) slacking too bricksandmortar determination . to generate rather great article?- nonetheless exactly how perform My best say?- I have delay doing things a lot of and easily never to begin with look to visit designed.

  6. January 11, 2012 at 8:14 am

    Pam, When I click on the book above it takes me to Amazon however, to a totally different book. Am I confused?
    Blessings to your amazing success, Sue

    • January 11, 2012 at 7:17 pm

      Sue will check we are pulling that piece off in the next page layout – thanks for the heads up!

Leave a reply

*

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

*