I’m talking about business today.
No, not that type.
Not the making money -entrepreneurial type. I’m talking about the people business.
I’m talking about her business. His business. Their business. And the business of me and you.
And to do this I must first, come clean. I must admit the truth about other people’s business and me… You may need to sit down, or maybe just take a knee. That way you’ll be close to genuflecting. As clearly, I need prayer. Because you see, the truth about me is that for most of my life I’ve been preoccupied with her business, his business and their business to the neglect of my business- the business of me.
Hello. My name is Pam.
I am a WBII OCD survivor or should I say VICTOR.
Yes, you heard right. I’m a ‘Whose business is it obsessive compulsive disorder VICTOR.’
For the longest time, and believe me if need be=-my family can testify to my disorder. The sickness I suffered from was quite simply the false belief that all business was my business.
I was blind to the fact that people have boundaries.
And when I finally discovered I was living other people’s lives instead of my own I was deep in the throes of Obsessive compulsive disease attempting to control everything I could to feel safe and secure even god like.
Thus, I am a WBII OCD thriver.
I use to spend hours, whose kidding themselves, make that weeks- worrying about his business, her business and their business all the while entirely forgetting I was a human being with a life myself. . I read the instruction manual wrong. And entirely misunderstood the definition of love.
And then the day came when I realized as Byron Katie delineates there are three types of businesses; God’s, other people’s and mine. And that for the most part the reason my life sucked and was going to hell in a hand basket was that I was investing all my time and resources into God’s business and other people’s as if it were mine…
Whose business is it?
Are you like me and tending to others business as if it were your own. And in the meantime letting your own garden go unweeded and un-nutured?
Life is meant to be lived. We need to help people when they can’t carry the boulders life places on them and then keep our hands off their backpacks and the rest of the details that are in deed their business not ours.
God made me …I’m here to mind my business and to trust him with his business and others with theirs…
Whose business is this anyways? After all these years as a codependent over achiever I”m glad to say that this is the first question I ask myself when the urge to control and take over someone else’s business, tugs inside of me and tells me to do something.
Whose Business Is This?
I love Byron Katies work and her work on whose business is it – has inspired me